5 Factors Why Men Cheat

1) Roots Needed for Growth–The relationship never established roots before it became a sexual relationship. Love, trust and respect needs to be established before the relationship becomes physical. For men they need time to build up that sense of love and bonding. Sex raises the bonding hormone oxytocin but after it’s over it lowers considerably unless love is established. It’s basically the chemistry of emotions in the mind. Criminologists have discovered how the influence of love, sex, and romance can reform the most hardened criminals, but similarly drive a man to steal, cheat, or commit murder. On a positive note, it’s the same emotions that can be the driving force in great heights of super achievement in some men.  Studies show that oxytocin is linked with monogamy: 

2) Loss of Love and Sparkle– love is a bond that doesn’t just exist, you have to cultivate it, you have to work at it, you have to keep it safe or it loses it’s value, becomes stale, and isn’t nearly as precious as it was originally. I strongly believe that if you stop loving yourself and being your best self, so will he. This is on you women. I’m gonna shock you and tell you that in this area, it’s your job to keep him interested. You can’t let yourself go and expect him to see the glitter in your eyes. Take pride in yourself, you have a role to play here, and the name is Romance. It’s your job to keep reminding him why he pursued you in the first place. In the book I’m reading called “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill it’s not about becoming a millionaire, but how to build and conquer your life like an empire. Love, power and sex are mutually exclusive parts to a man’s success and through the right woman he can materialize it. When you sparkle you catch his eyes, that’s energy. That’s conjuring up a hunger or a thirst. Everything in life translates into energy. In Ch. 11 the author say’s something I always knew but was not an authority figure on to convince those who said otherwise:

3) Religiosity/Upbringing– a very religious man in a religion that promotes monogamy will be less apt to cheating because it’s likely he’s God fearing. If he grew up in a home where both parents respected each other and a high value is placed on fidelity, however tempting it might be, he will feel conflicted about breaking that norm. Our belief system stems from our culture, religion, views imposed from our upbringing and life experiences. Think about the sacredness of religious items. If you view marriage as sacred, you’ll treat it differently than you would if you believed it’s disposable. 

4) Character Flaws– this is found in the man who will throw away the greatest woman/relationship for nothing. He will cheat on the beautiful devoted wife because he’s upset, looking for an escape, to pacify negative emotions, boredom, or to compensate for something he’s lacking in ego. These men are poor at problem-solving, communication,  coping with stress, easily peer pressured, conflict avoiders, and usually an addiction to alcohol or something else like sex isn’t that far behind.  Character flaws on the female side of the relationship, is in regards to conflict resolution. Behavior/speech that disrespects, emasculates, belittles, or breaks down a male counterpart, plays a part as well. Women have to look at themselves as builders; “behind every successful man is a woman”. You catch more flies with honey. Don’t let him fly away because you’re offering vinegar. Today our generation are characteristically flawed because nobody can stand to be in a relationship for the long haul. The minute things get hard they run. The mentality is if something is broken…”throw it away”. It’s one thing to work hard on something that shows no change, and knowing when enough is enough, but even then courage, ambition, determination and strength are the qualities required. The belief system, character flaws, coupled with lower religiosity, raises the likelihood of cheating.  

5) Power, Charisma, Appeal– we all know some people are fierce, they’re born with a power within them. They can command a room without much effort. Some strong signs in astrology create these personalities, it’s just the way nature created it. I strongly believe some men just can’t be monogamous unless they find someone with equal inner power as them. This power can be used negatively or positively. Used positively, you’ll find these men as successful leaders, important business figures, inventors, and athletes. When we see these powerful figures fall, it’s usually due to overindulgence of some kind and many times that overindulgence is another woman. 

Think about all these factors. Start investing your time, energy and love in the places that need work. Life isn’t perfect, people aren’t perfect, but….

                      Time + Passion + Love =                             
(Anything you want to cultivate; strength, commitment, fidelity, power, growth, bonds, happiness, etc.)

Other Interesting Reads: 
Why Sex Should Be Treated As A Spiritual Practice

7 Things Men Want In A Relationship

31 Reasons Why Men Don’t Cheat

Cheating Women Are Looking For Sex, Not Divorce, Study Says

Sex, Lies and Conversation; Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other?

Each time a man connects with a woman sexually and releases his life form energy within her, he leaves a part of his information (DNA) in her birth canal.

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