When I came to FL back in 2004 I hated this fucking place. I couldn’t stand the perky ass Floridians who always felt the need to say “Hi, how are you?” They were so annoying and ready to come over with their ridiculous chatter as if you had been long time friends. In NY, if you looked at someone they were ready to ask you ” What the fuck you looking at?!” I was pretty depressed; coming to FL with my family wasn’t the problem. It was just too much of a culture shock. I never did well with change. Once my boyfriend got over here, and I learned to drive, and got to school it was a lot better, but still I had such a bad attitude about living here. I couldn’t wait for the day when I would be able to move back.Even when I went to class, I couldn’t stand being there. College wasn’t anything like I imagined either. Remarkably though I made two friends both guys. Steven and Kevin…different classes but they were my buddies. Steven was a white island dude from Bermuda, he was sweet, funny as hell, but he liked to fuck around too much. Everyday we’d meet up for coffee to do our work together and never get anything done because he thought we could just sit outside by the lake and talk about bullshit and about our lives. Kevin was the opposite; he was a focused black guy trying to get his degree in gaming software. He called me “Dre” and we used to chat all the time, work on projects. Somehow lines got confused with both of these guys and now they were thinking they could ask me out and shit even though they knew I had a boyfriend. There both friendships ended, and I was; back to being depressed because I had no friends, until I got a job.
- Get a notebook, like one dedicated to your self-discovery and jot down all your thoughts, ideas, passions, talents, strengths and weaknesses.
- Write down your goal. For an examples in this list let’s use: I want to become a nurse.
- Ask yourself, is this realistic and specific? Yes…it’s not like saying “I’m going to work with people”.
- What is it going to take? People we have the fucking internet…use the goddamn thing, stop watching porn. Nobody’s asking you to take a trip to the library and use encyclopedias. You can easily Google: “How to become a nurse” in your state.
- Now that you know what it takes, make mini goals. Get your ass back on the internet, research what schools are around you, options you have for night/online classes, tuition and fees, and government funded help like financial aid.
- ACT NOW! Make a deadline for this goal. A goal is just a dream without a deadline. Don’t wait for doubt to cloud your judgment, get back on the freakin’ computer and do an online application.
- There, you completed 3 tasks from the chair you’re sitting in. Now, make a commitment…you will not withdraw from classes for any reason, you will complete your classes doing the best you can. Again mini goals, ex. I will attend my classes, and study religiously. I will finish this paper due tomorrow.
- Stop making excuses and blaming others for your shortcomings. You don’t get to be jealous of others either if you’re not getting off your ass to do something. Surround yourself with people who will encourage you as well.
- If you fall off the wagon, get the fuck back on, you’re this much closer to your goal!
- Pray when it gets tough, pray for strength, and don’t self-sabotage. Make better choices like choosing to stay in this weekend so you can do better on the upcoming exam on Monday. Do your best and God will handle the rest.
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” –Joseph Campbell
Much love to Bibi, my college bestie ❤
Hasta Mañana
The Divine Catalyst 